HOW TO STOP PORN: ADVICE THAT WORKS
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HOW TO STOP PORN: ADVICE THAT WORKS

DEALING WITH A RELAPSE TO PORN OR OUT OF CONTROL SEX

Pastor Mike slipped up again. He was focusing on how to quit porn but he was having a bad day. He was looking forward to spending some time with his wife (if you know what I mean). But she was like – I really had a long day and I really was planning to go to sleep early. She did indeed go to bed early and Mike hit the porn 5 minutes after she went to sleep. He watched until 1:50 AM.

5 hours later he woke up having a heat flash and feeling rotten. He paused to pray for forgiveness and did not feel a thing. Then he realized he had been slipping up on a pretty regular basis. He knew he needed to try something new to get his act together. He grabbed a pen and paper and decided to write out the consequences of his actions.

 

HOW TO STOP PORN? MAKE A PLAN

 

He wrote – when I fall into lust the light in my life disappears and darkness seems to move in. #2: Lately, my goal of growing my church 10% this year has been totally forgotten – been busy thinking about entertainment and worse. #3: Have been making bad financial decisions lately. I felt like I was in God’s blessing last month – is it slipping away? #4: Last month I was encouraging my church members to invite others to church and they did it. I was finding great joy in seeing these people saved.

Recently, I have been focusing on my own pleasure, now I have lost my focus on church growth and my joy level has gone from a 10 to a 4. #5: I often preach that relationships suffer when you get into sin. Yes, all of my relationships could use help right now. #6: Can’t sleep good anymore. #7: I have been sick lately – I noticed that God doesn’t really answer my prayers when I place pleasure and lust before Him.

Pastor Mike bowed his head and prayed: Father, I realize that your rules are for my own good and joy. Forgive me for my rebellion. From now on, I am going to review these consequences when tempted. Suddenly, he felt a warmth like Jesus was with him again. Yes, he always told his church people that real repentance was planning how you are going to change. Finally, this is the plan which gives a little bit of power on how to combat future triggers. (OOCS is short for out of control sex).

STOP PORN AND OOCS SEX BY INCREASED CONTROL OF EMOTIONS

Learn how to quit porn by controlling your emotions

We all have problems that lead to emotions which are often triggers to porn/sex addiction. So it helps to retrain your mind to react moderately to life’s constant issues. Self-pity, resentment, anger frustration, boredom or anything else that triggers your habit needs to be changed. Take notes of what emotions cause you issues. Then prepare, pray, and plan to react differently. Our minds will learn new habits. When you get angry daily you have that habit. Today, if you make plans to keep the anger under control you are starting to form new habits which will assist you in gaining self-control.

In life your emotions get out of control and what do you do when you get upset. One may look at porn or have illicit sex. To change we might spend a lot of time praying about the emotions that lead to bad habits.

Today, write down which emotions tend to lead you back to sex/pornography addiction?

 

STOP BY WATCHING OTHERS

Many people are doing things that help them stop porn triggers or oocs urges. Bill prayed 4 times per day that God would help him control his negative emotions.

If you have not accepted Christ and would like to, Pray, “Father forgive me of my sins. I accept you as my Savior.” If your faith is lacking, read “The Case for Christ” by Lee Strobel.

Lisa has decided to start a habit to say to herself 4 times a day that “my goal is to quit my sexual addiction. My priority is a healthy life, not short-term fun or short-lived excitement – my goal is to quit. Starting now, I will do things that satisfy.

Bible Reading: First Corinthians 1 and Matthew 1

GET RID OF PORN AND OOC SEX BY TURNING RAPIDLY AWAY

To get free from a sexual addiction or porn viewing be ready to fast forward movies or TV if nudity or sex is shown. If you look at any nudity or smut you will fall back into your addiction. It will either happen that day or that week. Find other things to do. Develop other habits.

Mike decided today to add ideas to his quitting porn journal.

Sometimes people struggle to break free from watching porn addiction because they have no idea about the purpose for their life. Rick Warren wrote an excellent book called “The Purpose Driven Life”. Try it today.

1 Corinthians 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”

 

Pray: Father, help me to quit porn and sex addiction, and to learn how to focus on other things instead of living in lust and to learn what to do instead.

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