Stop The Addictions | Sex/Porn Freedom in 30 days: day 4
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Sex/Porn Freedom in 30 days: day 4

Pastor Ron slipped up again. He was having a bad day and was looking forward to spending some time with his wife (if you know what I mean). But she was like – I really had a long day and I really was planning to go to sleep early. She did indeed go to bed early and Ron hit the porn 5 minutes after she went to sleep. He watched until he went to bed.

5 hours later he woke up having a heat flash and feeling rotten. He paused to pray for forgiveness and did not feel a thing. He then realized he had been slipping up on a pretty regular basis. He knew he needed to try something new to get his act together. He grabbed a pen and paper and decided to write out the consequences of his actions.

He wrote – the minute I fall into lust I feel the light in my life disappear and other forces seem to move in. #2: Over the last few weeks my goal of growing my church 10% this year has been totally forgotten – been busy focusing on entertainment and worse. #3: I made a couple of bad financial decisions in the last few weeks. I seemed to be in God’s blessing last month – is it slipping away? #4: Last month I was encouraging my church members to invite others to church and they did it. I was finding great joy in seeing these people saved. This month I have been focusing on my own pleasure, I have forgotten about church growth and my joy level has gone from a 10 to a 3. #5: I always preach that relationships suffer when you get into sin. Yep, all of my relationships could use a band aid right now. #6: Another night with very little sleep. #7: I have been sick on and off all month – noticed that God doesn’t really answer my prayers when I put my pleasure and lust before Him.

Pastor Ron bowed his head and prayed: Father, I know your rules are for my own good and joy. Please forgive me for my ignorance and sin. Next time I am going to review these consequences when I am tempted. This time he felt a warmth like Jesus was with him again. Yep, he always taught his church people that real repentance was putting together a plan of how you are going to change. Now he has a plan which gives a little bit of power about how to fight future temptation.

Life is filled with constant problems and these issues lead to negative emotions which are often triggers to porn/sex addiction. It is wise to retrain your mind to react moderately to life’s constant problems. Anger, self pity, resentment, frustration, boredom or anything else that triggers your habit needs to be changed. Make a note of what emotions cause you problems. Then pray, plan and prepare yourself to react differently. Your mind will learn new habits. If you get angry every day you have that habit. Now if you make efforts every day to keep your anger under control you are beginning to form a new habit which will assist you in learning self control.

What happens is that your emotions get out of control and what do you do when you get upset. You likely use drugs or drink. So you need to spend a lot of time praying about the emotions that leads to your habit.
Write down what emotion tends to lead you back to porn/sex addiction?

Let’s look in on people who quit to see what they are trying. Bill prayed five times per day that God would help him to control his negative emotions. Remember we pray all the time for things that are not in God’s will. This prayer is exactly what God wants you to change and He will answer it over time.

Now you may say I have asked God a 1000 times to keep me from porn or out of control sex and I went back 998 times. Did I get no answer to prayer? You got the answer which was silence because when you love something as much as you love or used to love porn/sex – God ignores those prays. In order for you to pray “God keep me from going back” and get an answer, you have to hate porn/sex addiction with a passion so that you will have the faith to believe that you really can stop.

God will answer the prayer of a sincere person immediately and permanently. I will also tell you that God rarely answers my prayers immediately. And I know why. On some level I still want my addiction. So if you want to pray directly about your addiction pray “Father help me to not want this addiction”.

Many of you have accepted Christ as your Savior. For a while you felt His tremendous love in your life and then it has faded a bit. The way to get it back (or to start now) is to repent of your sins and to dedicate your life to Him. Pray “Father forgive me of my sins. I accept you as my Savior.” If you lack the faith to commit at this time read “The Case for Christ” by Lee Strobel.

I believe that Jesus is real and this great book documents a man who made it his goal to prove Jesus was a fake. After years of research He become a Christian and wrote this book because of the overwhelming evidence that Jesus was real and is God.

Lisa is determined to form a habit to say to herself 3 times a day that “my goal is to quit drinking and doing drugs. I will not put a priority on fun or excitement – my goal is to quit. Today I will do things that satisfy.

Read First Corinthians 1 and Matthew 1 from the Bible.
To quit a porn/sex addiction make it a priority to clean out everything from your house, work and everywhere else that is porn and also to clean out anything that may trigger your downfall. Next you need to make changes to stay clean. Uncut movies are often filled with suggestive themes and sometimes nudity.

If you look at any nudity or smut you will fall back into your addiction. It will either happen that day or that week. Find other things to do. Develop other habits.

Today Mike decided to add idea’s to his quitting porn journal.

See my video Quitting Addiction Exercises for more information on this. Review old entries and highlight the best idea’s.

One of the reasons some people struggle to quit is because they have no idea what the purpose for their life is. There is an excellent book by Rick Warren called “The Purpose Driven Life”. I highly recommend that you read this book.

1 Corinthians 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”

God has unfailing love for us. Every day I will add another verse that talks about His unfailing love.

Psalm 6:4
Turn, O LORD, and deliver me; save me because of your unfailing love.

 

Pray: Father, help me to quit my Sex/Porn addiction, and to learn how to think about other things instead of living in lust and to learn what to do instead.

Book series out on Amazon now. How Peter Quit Porn is 24 action-packed, fictional adventures Peter goes on, which show him how to quit Porn. The Screwtape Letters story will take you on a journey from heaven, into hell and back to heaven. This dramatic adventure involving angels and demons will be life-changing.

At the end of each story, Peter talks to his mentor Gordon, who helps him learn from his adventure and learn about Jesus. The 24 adventures include: Titanic, Pearl Harbor, the Matrix, the Exorcist, Treasures, the Pleasure Principle, Escaping Reality and many others. Gordon teaches Peter his code at the end of every chapter. The code teaches you how to be unstoppable, how a true understanding of pleasure will lead to you never look at porn again, how to make current obsessions become minor temptations and how to fight until you are free.

This book teaches you practical techniques on how to renew your mind while having fun. These vivid stories will help you form new life changing habits. Click the below link to look at “How Peter Quit Porn” at Amazon now.

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Lloyd John Ogilvie motivational quote

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Day 1: Overcoming cravings

Day2 : Is God real?

Day 3: Quitting addiction exercises