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Sex/porn freedom in 30 days: day one

The reason you signed up for a 30 day program was likely because a porn or out of control sex addiction have caused you severe harm.
So your first goal should be to be constantly aware of this damage happening again.
What pain has porn or out of control sex cost you? __________________________________________________________________________________________
One key to breaking habits is to start new relationships with people who will encourage you to start a new life style.
What is your motivation for stopping this addiction now?
1. ___________________________________________________________
2. ___________________________________________________________
3. ___________________________________________________________
4. ___________________________________________________________
5. ___________________________________________________________

Have you tried to quit this addiction before? ________

Why did that attempt fail? ___________________________________________________
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What new activities will you start this week to replace porn or out of control sex?
1. _________________________________________________________
2. _________________________________________________________
3. _________________________________________________________
4. _________________________________________________________

Strive to learn from people who have decided to quit. We will follow several people to see what they are doing – Bill, Lisa, Jim, Jan and Mike.

Today Bill threw away 5 porn magazines and 7 Video tapes. Today throw away and get rid of anything that is leading you
back into illicit porn or out of control sex.
Lisa said to herself twice today: out of control sex has caused me destruction, it has in the past and
it will in the future (unless I quit).

Jim wrote down what he planned to do today (instead of porn). If you use porn or sex for fun you
need fun activities to replace porn or sex . If you use porn or sex for excitement you need exciting activities etc.

Mikes sex addicition has taken him all the way to rock bottom. He is 100% dedicated to change. He printed out the following article:
John Lee wrote the following at www.choosehelp.com

“The Four Ds – a Simple Relapse Prevention Strategy

You can (and should) try to avoid cues and triggers but there’s no way to dodge them all; if you’re in recovery – and you want to stay in recovery – you need to learn to cope with cravings.
Cravings come in waves. They feel like they’ll last forever but if you can endure for 20 minutes or so, they always dissipate into nothingness.
And fortunately, the more often you resist those cravings, the weaker they get and the less frequently they bother you.
If you can hold on for just a few minutes, you can almost always overcome your cravings. To help you with this, here’s an easy-to-remember coping strategy (The Four Ds) to get you safely past the 20 minute danger zone.

The Four Ds

This is a classic relapse prevention technique. The Ds stand for:
1. Delay – Since cravings rise and fall like waves, if you can delay a relapse decision for 20 minutes you’ll generally find the cravings dissipate on their own.
2. Distract – Craving time passes more quickly when engaged in a distracting activity for a few minutes.
3. Deep breathing – Deep breathing exercises help you maintain calm and purpose when cravings hit, keeping you from making rash decisions.
4. Drink a glass of water – Drinking a glass of water relaxes you and sets your purpose. Imagine your cravings as like a runaway train gathering momentum to a disaster. Simple activities like taking a moment to drink a glass of water are like brakes that slow that train!1
So the next time you feel a craving, remember The Four Ds and avoid a permanent mistake caused by a temporary urge.
Here are 20 solid distraction ideas that will keep you occupied just long enough. Try any or all that make sense to you, or better yet, come up with a list of your own.
You may want to write down a few go-to distraction tasks and keep them on your person (see the example chart at the end of this article). This way you won’t be left scrambling for distraction ideas when already struggling with cravings – you’ll have your ideas planned out and ready to go.

20 Distraction Ideas for Cravings

1. Take a shower, even if you don’t need one. Scrub hard and turn the water as hot (or cold) as you can stand it. Let it soak into you for a few minutes and by the time you towel dry 20 minutes later you’ll probably feel a lot less tempted to fold.
2. Wash and wax the car
3. Call a friend and talk about their problems (not yours)
4. Clean the fridge, the bathroom or the garage – cleaning anything provides just the right amount of physical exertion and mental distraction – and as an added bonus you feel better after getting it done.2
5. Walk the dog (or just take a walk around the block)
6. Go jogging
7. Do a quick home work-out
8. Meditate or do yoga
9. Play a musical instrument
10.Do a progressive muscle relaxation exercise or write in a journal
11.Catch up on work for a few minutes
12.Prepare an interesting snack, and then enjoy it
13.Do a crossword or Sudoku puzzle
14.If you’re tempted to drink or use at home, then get out of the house and go for a drive. This can be a risky. Don’t get in the car if you’ll steer by autopilot to the nearest bar or drug dealer
15.Play a challenging video game
16.Do bicycle maintenance
17.Cut the grass
18.Walk out and get a coffee
19.Fix that thing that needs fixing – replace burnt-out light bulbs or dead batteries, etc.
20.Water all the plants or groom your pet
The next time you feel a craving coming on, take a moment to feel it in your body, and then tell yourself that it’s going to pass if you can just wait it out – and then use one of the 20 methods listed above (or any others you can think of) to distract yourself while you wait for that urge to disappear.
And since the more tools you have at your disposal the better your odds of success, learn how to urge surf as well – it’s a fantastic mindfulness technique that lets you glide with attention right over the peak of a craving.

Write down 5 distraction idea’s that might work for you

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Reasons for Change

To avoid Health issues
To be a better parent for my child. To avoid breaking a promise to my child that I would not mess up again
To get out of the black hole I am in
To stay married (spouse will divorce me if I keep screwing up)

Negative Expectations

If I fall now I will wake up at 4 in the morning feeling ashamed.
If I look at porn now I will want to keep looking even more often tomorrow.
If I live in lust now I will probably keep struggling with it for months or years.”

Do not be mad at God or at people who can help you. Allow somebody to have a platonic love for you and be open to their help.
Thomas Vilord said “If you have goals and procrastinaion you have nothing. If you have goals and take action you can hve anything that you want”
I will give you new things to think about and focus on. I will help you develop a dynamic organized system which
will give you the weapons you need to fight your addiction.

Never forget the #1 rule for quitting porn or illicit sex: Never give up.

1 “If you are aware of your weaknesses and are constantly learning, your potential is virtually limitless.”
Overcoming Addiction Quote by Jay Sidhu

Tomorrow please find day two which is about the 50th article on the column on the left at the end ot the
Drugs and drinking no more articles.

Consider getting a notebook to add idea’s about quitting addiction from this day and every day