(NA) and AA, say that we should admit we are powerless over drugs or drinking-that our lives have become unmanageable. If you believe that write out four things for you that support this theory.
I really hate to admit that they are right. I most earnestly want to believe that I still have the power. But any “real” drug or alcohol user has lost the power. If you still believe you have the power this is something to consider over the next few weeks.
Many of you are 100% aware that you agree with NA and AA on this. But if you don’t have the power, who does? There are two power sources for you. The first is to join a NA or AA group. The second is your Higher Power.
Do you know people who strongly believe in God who seem happy and fulfilled? ______
God has an overwhelming love for you. But we often put up a wall between ourselves and God and shut Him out. Over the next 44 days we will discover how to break down that wall so that you can experience God and be fully aware of His love.
If you don’t believe in God currently that is OK. If He is real He will show Himself to you if you really seek Him. But it is very important that you are open to the possibility of God. If He is the Truth and the life then we really can’t flourish without Him.
For me I have found that I have more joy and real love in my life when I try to do things God’s way. Even if you struggle to believe what I say is true – you can still try it. Just ask Jesus to forgive you for your sins and accept Jesus Christ as your Savior.
List four reasons why doing things Gods way could be good for you.
How to Form New Habits
Phillippa Lally is a health psychology researcher at University College London. In a study published in the European Journal of Social Psychology, Lally and her research team decided to figure out just how long it actually takes to form a habit. (new habits designed to help break old habits.)
On average, it takes more than 2 months before a new behavior becomes automatic — 66 days to be exact. And how long it takes a new habit to form can vary widely depending on the behavior, the person, and the circumstances. In Lally’s study, it took anywhere from 18 days to 254 days for people to form a new habit.
I will repeat many things many times in this 45 day program. If you develop a habit of saying certain statements multiple times each day your thinking will change. Then your habits will change. The more you embrace this repetition the stronger your control over your addiction will become.
Start a journal and fill it with ideas about quitting drugs or drinking. Add new idea’s as often as possible and review and highlight the best idea’s.
Consider how daily Bible reading may be good for your life.
Prayers for overcoming addiction: How to pray
Today we will continue to follow several people who are trying to quit what they are doing – Ty, Sue, Tom, Joy and TJ.
Tom has added golf to distract him from temptation. He hits plastic golf balls in his back yard.
New activities to replace drugs/drinking can make a big difference.
If we really are hung up on the addiction the new activities will seem less fun. Over time the fun will return with normal activities when our heads are back on straight.
TJ talked to his pastor about trying to find new “clean” friends? (Remember this may take some work as well as some time).
Ty loves to just wing it every day – and bad things happen very often. But today he decides to do what his AA sponsor told him to do – “Say to yourself at least twice today: Drugs or/and drinking have caused me destruction and pain, they have in the past and they will in the future.”
Sue has avoided joining NA like it was a plague. Today she decided she just couldn’t make it on her own. She joined NA.
Joy is trying to make a habit of saying: “This temptation will go away if I don’t act on it. If I give in it will return and it may be even stronger next time. If I don’t give in it will go away and someday it will go away for good. I have the self control to change”.
It’s amazing how powerful your subconscious mind is. Every single time you do a new positive activity, your subconscious programs it into your brain. The more you do it, the more entrenched the program becomes.
To reduce temptations or cravings make a Relapse Prevention Card to Take with You
Today write a relapse prevention card to carry around with you.
An Example Relapse Prevention Card
|The Four Ds
Fold a paper into four squares:
Negative Expectations – When you’re about to relapse you tend to focus on positive expectations and gloss-over negative expectations.
Some examples of positive expectations are:
Some examples of negative expectations are:
By writing down accurate negative expectation statements you provide a counter-balance for the positive expectation statements your addicted mind manufactures all on its own.
Determine to think about new activities several times today. If you have nothing to do make it 50 times. You will at some point become what you think about.
TJ wrote out the activities he planned to do today. He then started a notebook to keep track of new ideas about how to stay clean as well as ideas about new activities.
What new habits do you want/need to start? Every day write down which day you just finished so that you can keep track of where to start tomorrow.
Always increase self-control. Try eating raw broccoli instead of candy. Why? It develops self-control and delays pleasure. Daily, repeat an exercise that grows your self-control. Learn a musical instrument, go for a walk, do something healthy. Broccoli tastes bad, but you feel way better an hour later. Living healthy for a 5 days straight is like eating broccoli. 16 days from now you will feel way better.
Harvard says to focus on long term thinking. Their study says that the more long term you are in your thinking, the more successful you will be in life. If you focus on a bad thing that you want today, you will get destruction again. If you focus on doing today, something that will lead to a great week or month, you just might get that.
Quit smoking. It has been proven to lead back to drinking.
Thankyou for reading day 2: Giving up drugs and drinking.
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