http://www.verywellmind.com/ said the following:
“The ability to delay gratification, or to wait to get what you want, is an important part of self-control. People are often able to control their behavior by delaying the gratification of their urges.
Delaying gratification involves putting off short-term desires in favor of long-term rewards. Researchers have found that the ability to delay gratification is important not only for attaining goals but also for well-being and overall success in life.
The “Hot-and-Cool” System
Based on his research, Walter Mischel proposed what he referred to as a “hot-and-cool” system to explain the ability to delay gratification. The hot system refers to the part of our willpower that is emotional, impulsive, and urges us to act upon our desires. When this system takes over, we may give in to our momentary desires and act rashly without considering the potential long-term effects.8
The cool system is the part of our willpower that is rational, thoughtful, and enables us to consider the consequences of our actions in order to resist our impulses. The cool system helps us look for ways to distract us from our urges and find more appropriate ways to deal with our desires.
Recap
The ability to delay gratification is linked to a number of benefits including better goal attainment and positive life outcomes. Finding ways to distract yourself from temptation can help you strengthen your ability to delay gratification.” Great tips.
A great habit to work on is to think in a slow, cool, rational way.
Key Point: Never let short-term bad decisions ruin your week and month. Say: I will have self-control and have a great week and a great month.
Consider praying: “Father, show me the consequences of my decisions.”
Consider praying: “Father, help me to think long-term with my decisions.”
Which of these statements should you consider memorizing:
I will take time to consider the consequences of falling.
I will learn the habit of distracting myself.
I will find pleasure in Godly way.
When I think long-term I increase my overall pleasure and avoid destruction.
I will calmly, slowly fight temptation and do things God’s way.
Finally, satan wants you to rush to your habit. When you feel 100% compelled to rush to a habit you want to quit, there is one thing you know for sure. Satan is involved.
1 Peter 5:8 ESV Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.”
God wants you to rush away from temptation. He wants you to rush to scripture. He wants you to rush to Him.
Never, never, never run to your habit.
If you have the habit of never running to your habit, you have made good progress.
Today, consider what you will add to your quitting notebook.
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