Maintain clear reasons why you want to control the behavior and remind yourself of these reasons continuously. For example: Susie is determined to quit her sugar addiction – she has had enough of the destruction.
In her diary she writes: “It is 1:30 – why can’t I think about the right things. I must change, my daughter needs a healthy mom. 2:10 – nothing I really want to do and I’m ready to pull my hair out. But, I need to pull it together, I have been good for 2 days and I have to get my blood pressure down. 3:05 – no one wants to do anything and I am going crazy. But, if I slip up once it will be 5 then 7 times then who knows. 3:54 – bad mouth mary is calling. I know all about the bad things that will happen if I answer. Let it go to voice mail. I really like the person I am starting to be, who will avoid the total jerks who don’t care about my issues.
4:30 Mom calls and complains. Temptation hits and Susie writes: I must change, my daughter needs a healthy Mom.
You may ask – how many times do I have to remind myself about the things I already know?
One of the reasons Susie is determined to do this is because her new husband said he did this for months and that is how he quit gambling. She thinks it is sort of funny that he still writes in his diary at odd times while they are together. But he says that every penny (plus more) used to go to gambling. Now he actually has a few dollars in his pocket.
Now his ex – friends are starting to like him again. He is not using them like he used to. He says “if I have to write my reasons for quitting a million times it will be worth it. I have my life back.”
When we remind ourselves continuously why we want to control our behavior- things will start to make sense.
Coca Cola is the highest selling brand of beverage in the world. In the 80’s Pepsi came out with the Pepsi challenge. They said try Coke and Pepsi in a blind taste test and see which one is better. 57% of people who took the test said they liked Pepsi more.
Pepsi sales shot through the roof and Coke panicked. They quickly came up with a sweeter New Coke. But within a few weeks Coke drinker complained. They did not like the sweeter Coke. Coke changed again and brought back old Coke now called Coke Classic bringing joy to the world again.
Was Pepsi better than Coke? Why did so many Coke lovers choose Pepsi in the test? It was because the first sip of Pepsi is sweeter, but when you drink the whole bottle the sweetness is a negative for many people.
Sin and addiction are exactly the same way, the first sip is sweet and fun. But quickly we remember we are again on the road to the Law of Diminishing returns.
When heavy temptation hits always pause to think about two things you can do right now that will give you increasing returns this week. If your life stinks right now you need to do things that will give you increasing returns and make your future better. Memorize the 3 P’s – Pause, pray, plan.
Key Point: When temptation is tough pause, pray and plan what you can do right now that will give you increasing returns this week.To quit addiction you need to understand how your mind works. On your way home from work you pass the doughnut shop. You want to go in – that is the trigger. You think about how great it would be if you could have your favorite one. The trigger leads to thinking about wrongs things. Now you start to crave sugar – your thinking about it leads to a feeling that you have to have it. You go in and since you were not supposed to do it in the first place you buy a couple extra. The craving has led to behavior. Now you are upset that you are doing the last thing in the world you planned to do so you feel bad. Since you feel bad you can’t stop at one. Your actions have consequences.
Know exactly what your triggers are. You have to develop the habit of instantly changing your thinking when the trigger starts you down a slippery road.
How to lose weight: tip #18 Keep a food journal – people who do this lose twice as much weight.
Checklist for avoiding relapse:
Top 10 prayers for overcoming addiction
The Lord’s Prayer: Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us, and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever and ever. Amen.
10.Pray: Father help me to be moderate in all things (being moderate in all things will help you stay away from your main addiction).
The Freedom Prayer
By Tim Hofflander
Father, give me wisdom to acquire techniques to quit my addition
Help me to fulfil my God given purpose in full, or to aggressively train to achieve it
I plan to obey you today and I ask that you would see my sincerity and help me to not only change my eating/exercise habits but to also quit other addictions/sins that keep my blessing far away
I will do my part in helping others and I humbly ask that you would start to bless my health and to give me a chance to help others long term
Feel free to repeat this course as many times as it takes to develop the habits and discipline you need to suceed both with your habits as well as with life.