Stop The Addictions | Sex/Porn freedom in 30 days: day 7
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Sex/Porn freedom in 30 days: day 7

It is healthy to take a day off once a week. It is important to take a rest from work but in 2017 it is also important to take a day off from everything we do that adds stress to our lives.

We have talked about learning what negative emotions or behaviors lead back to addiction. Now we must also understand how good activities “done in excess” also lead back to addiction. For example: we have been following Bill (clean from porn for 25 days) increasing his exercise program. This is highly recommended behavior. But if after 6 straight days of running 2 miles per day he runs 3 miles on Sunday to really up the ante. Then he felt really charged up so he decided to do a little extra work to get ahead financially. But 45 minutes into the work his friend asks him if he still wants to play a bit of pool. He says “just give me a few minutes and I will be done”. An hour later he realizes his buddy went out.

They next day Bill gets up feeling very tired. One mistake at work turns into two. When he gets home he is hoping to get some support from his buddy. But 10 seconds into the phone call he realizes his buddy is still a bit miffed about being blown off yesterday. So he decides it would be OK – just this time to watch a somewhat smutty movie.

Within 30 minutes this decision leads to enough viewing of porn to make Tuesday just as bad a day as Monday was.

Let’s do a count of the # of staying clean commandments that were broken. #1 even though running is a great way to help stay clean – After 6 days (Okay for some of us after one day) resting for a day was in order. Commandment #2 broken – people are more important than fighting for a few extra dollars (if you have enough for basic necessities).

Commandment #3 broken – stay moderate in all things even if they are good. Commandment #4 broken – God says take a day off. It is shocking how much easier it is to avoid addiction when we always do things Gods way.

Commandment #5 broken – Don’t watch or think about things that lead back to your addiction.

“You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it.”
Overcoming Addiction Quote by Margaret Thatcher (born 13 October 1925)

List your positive behaviors which you have done “in excess” in the past. Things like games, too much work, TV, Sports etc. We overdo because we don’t focus on moderation enough. We keep going because we are not content with our life. It is better to “be content” with a small house, an average job and a regular life than having a mansion, a high paying job and an attitude of “I have to fight to get more, more, more.” We also need to be content with the amount of pleasure we try to have today. Todays “extra” pleasure is tomorrow’s disaster. If we are not content with todays “clean” pleasures” we will have destruction as well as less pleasures later in the week/month.

Pray every day – Father, take away my __________ and help me to be content.

Pray every day – Father, take away my __________ and help me to be moderate in all things.

Remember that to improve the chances of getting your prayers answered you sometimes need to do something. In this case planning to be moderate today may cause God to notice that you are serious about living right and He may say – you know what I normally don’t step and change the course of history, but this person really wants to live the way I want them to live.

 

For me stress can lead back to addiction. When I put a specific time frame on activities which raise my stress level, plus praying about being moderate in all things – I probably triple or quadruple my odds of success. What do you need to plan more often which will help you avoid your addiction?

Why Were We Created?

One big problem that many users have is that they just don’t know what to do. If you are a Christian you are told in the Bible that you were created to Worship God.

Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God 1 Corinthians 10:31 

If you are not a Christian you may want to try it because when we have the Spirit of the Lord with us we will find Liberty.

16 Nevertheless when one turns to the Lord, the veil is taken away. 17 Now the Lord is the Spirit; and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty. 18 But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord 2 Corinthians 3:16-18

Look at the HOPE we should have for real change as we focus on learning how to keep the Spirit of the Lord near us. We get the Spirit of the Lord near us when we accept Jesus Christ as our Savior. But we know for sure that when we fiddle with sin we lose our Liberty over sin and over the chains of porn and sex outside of marriage.

Key Point#1

Never watch movies that still have all the smut in them. Instead of watching uncut movies the best solution is to wait for the movie to be released to TV. There are 2 advantages to this. The first is that TV takes out a lot of the nudity. The 2nd is that if you didnt pay for the film and if it is smutty it is easier to change the channel. Smut will lead you back to addiction either that day or the next day.

Therefore make it your goal to do everything to the glory of God. This will lead to liberty over sin and liberty over intoxication.

Read Matthew 4 and First Corintians 4 from the Bible.

Continue to read “The Purpose Driven Life”.

Psalm 31:16
Let your face shine on your servant; save me in your unfailing love.

Let’s continue to watch people who are striving to quit to see what they are doing. Bill prayed: Father, forgive me for my fall – help me to raise my standards and learn to turn from sin. Father keep me from temptation.

Lisa decided to make it a habit to pray at least 3 times per day “Lord, help me to always be moderate in all things.”

Mike made it a habit to have a time and place to pray every day.

1st Corinthians 6:9-10 New King James Version (NKJV)

Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals,[a] nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.

Why does the Bible say that fornicators and adulterers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Why does 1st Corinthians 6 say the harsh things it says? It may be because when we accept Christ we join God’s army. There is a massive war going on. God has huge things for every person to do. At first He may only give us small things to do until we straighten up enough to do the huge things. But we need to train always to do the huge things while we do the small things.

When we commit the sins from Corinthians 6 the disobedience is a problem. But the real problem is God’s army went off to war and ____ stayed behind because of _____ .  What should God do with the deserters? In 2017 in America virtually no one is taught about the urgency and importance of serving in God’s army. No one is taught to have a passion for winning the war. A passion for souls. A love for the people all around us dying and going to hell.

I focus on this passage regularly because I want to be fully aware of the war which is going on. I must quit any addictions so that I am able to do the task that God has for me to do.

The Fire

 

Sally is having a bad day. Yesterday her new boyfriend dumped her and it was obvious that every job she applied for was rejecting her. Today she is ready to resume her addiction and drive all over town getting into trouble everywhere.

She is 100% committed to change but she always goes back to it. So she had said to her preacher – “tell me what to do to quit, I will do anything.” He first told her, illicit sex will kill you. The Bible forbids you even to look with lust. Focus on that. She replied – “I really don’t care anymore.” He then told her – “do an internet search that says “what does the Bible say hell is like.” So she looked up every Bible verse on the subject.

She said “The problem currently is that now I am scared to drive all over town doing my thing. In the past I went on rampages, risked getting std’s or killed (and I did get std’s), got into situations that were scary and dangerous but exciting for a while. Pushed myself until I found that thrill, but it did always end in a complete depression. That moron preacher has messed with my head and now I am scared to do what I want to do. But, I don’t want to go to that hell.

Well, uh, um, I guess what I want to do is quit but he has no right to mess with my head like that. Well, on the other hand maybe my head is such a mess – maybe I do need to think about things like hell. The preacher did tell me that people who are afraid of separation from God, death from std’s, ruined relationships and waking up completely hung over do live happier lives. They do have less problems.

My preacher does love God, hate sin, love people and he sure helps people all the time. He does seem to be very happy. Maybe I should call him.

If you are not a Christian but you would like to become one, here is how to do it. #1 Confess your known sins to God #2 Ask him to forgive you for your past sin. #3 Ask Him to be your personal Lord and Savior.

#4 Find a good church where you can find a pastor (usually from a smaller church) who can work with you on your addiction. #5 There is power in prayer. Pray about your addiction. Will God give you an instant cure? Sure he will to the 1/10 of 1 % of those who will stop looking back at their addiction. But for the rest of us who want to look back because we are stupid, there is no instant cure. But we still need to pray because when we pray and are right with God the light goes on in our life. Then if we mess up it is very obvious that Gods way is best and that Christianity is the only real thing we have in the scope of an everlasting lifetime.

If you are a porn addict think about things you overinduge in (maybe TV) which lead back to addiction. If you are a sex addict maybe hanging out too much with loose friends (even ones you will never do anything with) gets you mind back on its old one way path to destruction.
Key Point:

Consider writing every prayer from this course on a 3 by 5 card and carry them with you wherever you go. Read and pray these prayers as often as you can (remember it is not the repetition that counts – you have to pray sincerely and urgently every time). We can only have the wrong output if we have the wrong input. We will predetermine in advance what our next action will be when we are tempted. If you pray enough your actions will begin to change. If you pray enough and your actions change enough you will never fall again.

Jan found that adding idea’s to her journal every day to be helpful.
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Index

Day 1: Overcoming cravings

Day2 : Is God real?

Day 3: Quitting addiction exercises

Day 4: Getting negative emotions out

Day 5: You can never increase the amount of pleasure that you can have for the month by going back to an addiction

Day 6: Sin leads back to addiction