It is healthy to take a day off once a week. It is important to take a rest from work but in 2017 it is also important to take a day off from everything we do that adds stress to our lives.
We have talked about learning what negative emotions or behaviors lead back to addiction. Now we must also understand how good activities “done in excess” also lead back to addiction. For example: we have Bill (clean from alcohol for 25 days) increasing his exercise program. This is highly recommended behavior. But if after 6 straight days of running 2 miles per day he runs 3 miles on Sunday to really up the ante. Then he felt really charged up so he decided to do a little extra work to get ahead financially. But 45 minutes into the work his friend asks him if he still wants to play a bit of pool. He says “just give me a few minutes and I will be done”. An hour later he realizes his buddy went out.
They next day Bill gets up feeling very tired. One mistake at work turns into two. When he gets home he is hoping to get some support from his buddy. But 10 seconds into the phone call he realizes his buddy is still a bit miffed about being blown off yesterday.
This leads to enough consumption of booze to make Tuesday just as bad a day as Monday was.
Let’s do a count of the # of staying clean commandments that were broken. #1 even though running is a great way to help stay clean – After 6 days (Okay for some of us after one day) resting for a day was in order. Commandment #2 broken – people are more important than fighting for a few extra dollars (if you have enough for basic necessities).
Commandment #3 broken – stay moderate in all things even if they are good. Commandment #4 broken – God says take a day off. It is shocking how much easier it is to avoid addiction when we always do things Gods way.
Commandment #5 broken – call your sponsor when you know you are in trouble.
List your positive behaviors which you have done “in excess” in the past. Things like games, too much work, TV, Sports etc. We overdo because we don’t focus on moderation enough. We keep going because we are not content with our life. It is better to “be content” with a small house, an average job and a regular life than having a mansion, a high paying job and an attitude of “I have to fight to get more, more, more.” We also need to be content with the amount of pleasure we try to have today. Todays “extra” pleasure is tomorrow’s disaster. If we are not content with todays “clean” pleasures” we will have destruction as well as less pleasures later in the week/month.
Pray every day – Father, take away my __________ and help me to be content.
Pray every day – Father, take away my __________ and help me to be moderate in all things.
For me stress can lead back to addiction. When I put a specific time frame on activities which raise my stress level, plus praying about being moderate in all things – I probably triple or quadruple my odds of success.
If you are not a Christian you may want to try it because when we have the Spirit of the Lord with us we will find Liberty.
Pray “Lord, help me to always be moderate in all things”. Remember that to improve the chances of getting your prayers answered you sometimes need to do something. In this case planning to be moderate today may cause God to notice that you are serious about living right and He may say – you know what, I normally don’t step and change the course of history, but this person really wants to live the way I want them to live.
One big problem that many users have is that they just don’t know what to do. If you are a Christian you are told in the Bible that you were created to Worship God.
Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God 1 Corinthians 10:31
16 Nevertheless when one turns to the Lord, the veil is taken away. 17 Now the Lord is the Spirit; and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty. 18 But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord2 Corinthians 3:16-18
Look at the HOPE we should have for real change as we focus on learning how to keep the Spirit of the Lord near us. We get the Spirit of the Lord near us when we accept Jesus Christ as our Savior. But we know for sure that when we fiddle with sin we lose our Liberty over sin and over the chains of drugs and drinking.
Therefore make it your goal to do everything to the glory of God. This will lead to liberty over sin and liberty over intoxication.
Let your face shine on your servant; save me in your unfailing love.
Overcoming the fear of Rehab. If you have accepted Christ and plan from now on to do things his way you can overcome fear. 2 Timothy 1:7 says “For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. Pray “Father I plan to do things your way, please take away my fear.
If you want to start living for the Glory of God, pray about it. Have a time and a place to pray every day.
Let’s continue to watch people who are trying to quit to see what they are doing. After his blowout Bill prayed “Father, forgive me of my sin. Help me to learn to be moderate in all things. Help me to value people more than I value money or the party or any other things which do not satisfy.”
Lisa decided to make it a habit to pray at least 3 times per day “Lord, keep me from temptation.”
Mike made it a habit to have a time and place to pray every day.
Ty continued to read “The Purpose Driven Life”.
Do not think that what your thoughts dwell on does not matter. Your thoughts are making you.”
Overcoming Addiction Quote by Bishop Steere
Lastly if you are not a Christian but you would like to become one, here is how to do it. #1 Confess your known sins to God #2 Ask him to forgive you for your past sin. #3 Ask Him to be your personal Lord and Savior.
#4 Find a good church where you can find a pastor (usually from a smaller church) who can work with you on your addiction. #5 There is power in prayer. Pray about your addiction. Will God give you an instant cure? Sure he will to the 1/10 of 1 % of those who will stop looking back at their addiction. But for the rest of us who want to look back because we are stupid, there is no instant cure. But we still need to pray because when we pray and are right with God the light goes on in our life. Then if we mess up it is very obvious that Gods way is best and that Christianity is the only real thing we have in the scope of an everlasting lifetime.
2nd Timothy 3:16 All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right.
9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals,[a] nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.
Why does the Bible say drunkards will not inherit the kingdom of God? And since drugs lead to unrighteousness 99% of the time they are in the same category.
Why does 1st Corinthians 6 say the harsh things it says? It may be because when we accept Christ we join God’s army. There is a massive war going on. God has huge things for every person to do. At first He may only give us small things to do until we straighten up enough to do the huge things. But we need to train always to do the huge things while we do the small things.
When we commit the sins from Corinthians 6 the disobedience is a problem. But the real problem is God’s army went off to war and ____ stayed behind because of _____ .
In 2017 in America virtually no one is taught about the urgency and importance of serving in God’s army. No one is taught to have a passion for winning the war. A passion for souls. A love for the people all around us dying and going to hell.
I focus on this passage regularly because I want to be fully aware of the war which is going on. I must quit any addictions so that I am able to do the task that God has for me to do.
PRAYER FOR FREEDOM FROM ADDICTION
Lord Jesus, You said, “I have come to set the captives free.” We are captive and need Your help. Free me, Lord, from my addiction, take away my sin – to which I cling;
Give me the wisdom to fight, pray, plan and work for my permanent freedom. In your great name, amen.
Sally is having a bad day. Yesterday her new boyfriend dumped her and it was obvious that every job she applied for was rejecting her. Today she is ready to party nonstop and drive all over town getting into trouble everywhere.
She is 100% committed to quitting drugs but she always goes back to them. So she had said to her preacher – “tell me what to do to quit, I will do anything.” He first told her, drugs will kill you. Focus on that. She replied – “I really don’t care anymore.” He then told her – “do an internet search that says “what does the Bible say hell is like.” So she looked up every Bible verse on the subject.
After doing this She said “The problem currently is that now I am scared to drive all over town high as a kite. In the past I had run a million stop signs, crashed about 12 times and been in accidents that almost killed me and often ended up with me in the hospital again. That moron preacher has messed with my head and now I am scared to do what I want to do. But, I don’t want to go to that hell.
Well, uh, um, I guess what I want to do is quit but he has no right to mess with my head like that. Well, on the other hand maybe my head is such a mess – maybe I do need to think about things like hell. The preacher did tell me that people who are afraid of speeding tickets, car crashes, jail and waking up completely hung over do live happier lives. They do have less problems.
My preacher does fear God, hate sin, love people and he sure helps people all the time. He does seem to be very happy. Maybe I should call him.
Read Matthew 4 and First Corintians 4 from the Bible.
Consider adding notes to your journal and study it as if it is going to change your life.
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The following is a reprint of an earlier article
How to quit a drug addiction
I usually start these article’s by talking about the massive amounts of destruction the addiction will do to you. In this case I am not going to do that because many drug users know all about the destruction but they still can’t stop. But I will give you the short version. How to quit drugs for good tip #1: drugs will ruin you, destroy everything and depending on your drug of choice possibly or likely kill you. But instead of dwelling on that I am going to talk a little bit about why many people use drugs.
Drug use is popular when people have something missing in their lives or when they need to bury some pain or hurt. But when drug use becomes an addiction It quickly becomes a dark hole where relationships, ethics and morals become a much lower priority than they should have.
For a few of you drugs have not hurt your job standing or even your marriage. But you may be beginning to be aware that the drugs are taking over and that they are taking, more than you what you want them to take. How to quit drugs for good tip #2: For others one of the main reasons you use drugs is because that is one of the few things that you feel like you have control over. It is your choice, it is your thing it is who you are. But this is a cruel lie. Drugs are a force and they are a driving force. How to quit drugs for good tip #3: There are some addictions that we think we are controlling but those addictions are actually controlling us. Over time drugs cause a loss of control of everything.
So why do people do drugs after they have decided to quit? In most people there is a dueling of personalities. Your mind tells you that you have to stop using drugs but your pleasure seeking flesh tells you that it will feel good.
Key Point #1 As long as you are ruled by the pleasure principle you will always struggle with addiction. The pleasure seeker is selfish, immature, demanding and short sited. How to quit drugs for good tip #4: In the long run, pleasure which is from an addiction always has a price to pay which is much higher than what you want to pay.
John Howard Prin in his book Secret Keeping notes that “Because temptations can come in so many forms (taking drugs, overeating, or surfing internet porn) these dueling tensions can be triggered continually. The average persons dual-mindedness results from listening to both opposing forces and acting according to one, then the other, then the first one again, then the second again… on and on in an endless tug-of-war.”
How to quit drugs addiction tip #5: Instead of being ruled by the pleasure principle strive to be ruled by the moral principle. The moral principle is wise and rational and it leads to real long term joy instead of fake short term pleasure which leads to destruction. This principle believes that rules like that of your country or laws from the Bible are there to make your life better. When you follow this principle you willingly give up your solution of choice (drugs) in exchange for another activity. How to quit drugs addiction tip #6: The reason you make this choice is because you now believe that choosing an alternative activity will give you the best life over the next 7 days and longer. So if you stay clean today and develop new activities you may have a hard day today but your week and your future will be better.
How to quit drugs addiction tip #7: Always choose the Wisdom of staying clean today so that you can have a good life all week, instead of giving in to the short term pleasure and destruction of drugs for one day. R Over time staying clean is a lifestyle which is always better.
Drugs are an escape for many people. One can escape from tension, anger, lack of success, pain and many other things. How to quit drugs addiction tip #8: We need to get rid of the escapist mindset because our one day of escape always ruins more than one day and it often ruins a whole week or longer. Along the same lines many have the philosophy that if it feels good do it. The problem is, that the feeling good of a few hours usually causes the feeling bad of a few days. Instead of having this damaging mindset, embrace finding your purpose, and living the right way which will lead to happiness over time.
How to quit drugs addiction tip #9: John Howard Prin in his book Secret Keeping wrote about his past addicted behavior. He said “Drinking in private both elevated my joys and numbed my distress, a dual benefit. Looking back , these fundamentals of addiction gradually became habits:
1st: Resentment. I was reliving all my past hurts. Another 30 years would pass before I could face these resentments and get rid of their corrosive power.
2nd: Isolation. My drinking intensified when I spent time alone. Solitary time was to become the riskiest situation for me to be in.
3rd: Drama and crisis. Overreacting, partly learned from Mom’s open display of temper and partly do to my brains overly sensitive conditioning, ruled me.
4th: Exaggerated emotions became my way of responding to life.
5th: Delusional thinking. My choice of a high profile film career had alrealdy hatched a larger dream to make movies in Hollywood and-why stop there-To win an Oscar. Excessive boozing inflated these unrealistic expectations.
Unwittingly I fell into the trap of living for the outside in. Accountable to no one, losing my bearings, I cared little about my character development yet easily became a slave to the ambitious pride that had aroused me”.
How to quit drugs addiction tip #10: We can see that being overly sensitive to emotional pain or failure is often a trigger to addiction. So first of all we need to be determined to be tougher and more emotionally ready for life’s constant problems. 2nd, negative emotions can lead us into addiction.
How to quit drugs addiction tip #11: we need to always work on getting rid of anger and other negative emotions which are often hidden triggers. Lastly we need to avoid circumstances which lead to negative emotions (if posible). Good planning and flexible planning can help you avoid circumstances which will trigger you.
How to quit drugs addiction tip #12: John Howard Prin also wrote “In time I learned that if my external motivation was strong enough, then my internal impulses could be curbed.”
For some people a great enough amount of pain or a change of thinking will cause them to change their behavior.
How to quit drugs addiction tip #13: If what you think about has changed, then your internal impulses can be controlled.
This is key point #2. You need to think about the benefits of quitting more often than you think about the experience of drug use. How to quit drugs addiction tip #14: Make a note to remind yourself to do this untill it becomes a daily habit.
How to quit drugs addiction tip #15: You need to think more about the destruction drugs cause you than you think about the pleasure/pain relief it gives.
But we have to be brutally honest: we are as sick as our addictions are. If your drug use is causing harm to others you need to immedately get outside help.
The remainder of this video will contain information which is only spiritual in nature. How to quit drugs addiction tip #16: Addiction tells us that something we can do (indulging in drugs) can compensate for what is missing inside of us. It is a lie. Religion will tell you to quit drugs. To control the fire that burns inside of you. But I will tell you that you need to increase the passion in your life. Your life needs to surge with more passion for something then it ever has before. You were created to have a dramatic impact on this world. Most of you have never experienced the rush of knowing what God wants you to do.
How to quit drugs addiction tip #17: Solutions” Dedicate your life to Christianity. Study the Bible and pray, pray, pray. Pray about everything but especially pray that God will take away your anger and any other negative emotions that may be a trigger for you. Obey the Bible down to every last word. Don’t look at sin and don’t even consider commiting any sin. Pray always about finding your purpose and be determined to live in the glory of Jesus Christ. He will fill what is missing in your life but you have to be intense about doing what He wants you to do. God wants you to find your purpose and He wants you to spread the Gospel. If you spend all of your free time in a dedicated way serving God, then you will have more passion and joy than you ever had.
Video’s 1 and 2 have a lot of information on finding your purpose and #2 has a lot of information on Christianity. And virtually all of the video’s have a lot of help on overcoming addiction. Try to watch one each day and keep watching them over and over untill you form new habits.