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Drugs and Drinking no more, A 40 day program: Day 14

“Whoever you are, there is some younger person who thinks you are perfect. There is some work that will never be done if you don’t do it. There is someone who would miss you if you were gone. There is a place that you alone can fill.”

Jacob M. Braude Overcoming Addiction Quote

We can learn so much about quitting addiction from Genesis.
Genesis chapter 2 verse 7 Then the Lord God formed a man[ d ] from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.  8 Now the Lord God had planted a garden in the east, in Eden; and there he put the man he had formed. 9 The Lord God made all kinds of trees grow out of the ground—trees that were pleasing to the eye and good for food. In the middle of the garden were the tree of life and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.

15 The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. 16 And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; 17 but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.” 18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs[h] and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib[i] he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

The Fall

3 Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” 2 The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, 3 but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’” 4 “You will not certainly die,” the serpent said to the woman. 5 “For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

In life there are always a couple of things that we can’t do if we want to find real joy. I always think when I read this story – I would never have eaten that apple. But the fact is that we do the exact same stupid thing she did. We get the same destruction she got (we will talk more about that tomorrow).

The first thing we can learn from this chapter is that satan wants us to fall. God told Adam and Eve they would die if they ate the forbidden fruit. Satan said to them “You certainly will not die.

I can tell you 50 times that drinking or drugs cause you destruction, it has in the past and it will in the future unless you quit. But satan will fight back and tell you that you are going to win this time. Satan will tell you that your favorite thing to do in the world is to party. Hello, did he forget all the pain and destruction it has caused you? He will tell you that you have to go. He will have your buddies call you to do drugs or drink.

Key Point #1 When your buddies call you to do drugs/drink tell them this: “I am making an attempt to quit drugs/drinking – it/they are killing me. I don’t know if it will stick this time but I am going to try”.

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Form a habit to say to yourself 6 times a day that “my drugs/drinking steal my long term joy. They have in the past and they will in the future unless I quit.”
Pray “Father keep me from temptation”.

The Power of Forgiveness

Addiction.com said:” There is power in forgiveness — this is the first thing most addictionologists will tell their patients. According to the definition of the word, forgiveness is the process by which a victim — the person you hurt, or yourself — changes his attitude toward the offense, lets go of negative emotions such as revenge, and creates within himself an increased ability to wish the offender well. It’s important to note that forgiving someone is not condoning, excusing, pardoning, forgetting or reconciling. In fact, you can choose to forgive someone without engaging any further in a relationship.

Health benefits of forgiveness

Harboring negative emotions, especially unexpressed or lingering anger, creates a state of chronic anxiety, which leads to increased production of adrenaline and cortisol; in excess, these chemicals compromise immune system function. Research has shown that “unforgiveness” is linked to increased incidence of cancer and heart disease. Holding a grudge, as they say, hurts you more than it hurts them.

Forgiveness is for you, not them

Fenigstein emphasizes the importance of forgiveness being a process; it’s not going to happen overnight, and addicts need to learn to “trust the process.” While most addicts struggle with forgiveness for a variety of reasons, in early recovery it’s a risk factor. “It’s a lot easier to ask for forgiveness from others,” he says, than it is for addicts to forgive themselves. And it puts them at risk of relapse if they’re not properly counseled through what can often take more than a letter or phone call asking for grace. “If someone is dead-set on not forgiving themselves, they’re highly likely to use.”

“The more forgiveness and lightening of the emotional [or] mental load in our hearts and minds, the less likely we are going to be having things churn in our souls,” Paul says. “It’s that churning and grinding of unresolved resentments and fears that is grist for the alcoholic mind to return. Our emotional sobriety falls apart long before our physical sobriety does.”

 

If you struggle to forgive others buy a Christian book on learning to forgive. It may save your life. Pray: every time you think negatively about someone you can’t forgive start to pray and ask God for help. If you make this a habit it will improve your life more than you can imagine.

John 8:36 If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed.”  Pray this prayer “Jesus what am I doing that keeps you from setting me free from this addiction.”

Matthew 5 is about how we can change so that we will start to be blessed by God. www.relijournal.com noted the following

 

The Seventh Beatitude v9

God blesses those who work for peace, for they will be called children of God.

 

Get rid of the “I must have excitement and thrills at any cost thinking.” Instead choose joy and peace. I am trying to remind myself 6 or 8 times each day to pursue real joy. What can you do that leads to real joy? Things like relationships, prayer, seeking the Holy Spirit, great Christian books and helping others. Work on your own list of things that bring real joy and get started living life with a passion and a fire.

A Sermon Walking

Charles put his arm around the 18 year old boy who had slipped up again. He explained to him that Jesus understood everything in his life. That Jesus knew how he felt, his pain, his frustration. The boy started to snap out of his funk. He said, “This time I am going do what you told me to do last time. I am going to learn how to praise God so that I don’t fall into one of my depressions – which lead me right to drinking.” Charles smiled and told the boy – Jesus has something for you to do. Stop being so busy doing empty things and He will show you what to do.

Pastor Charles was often a sermon walking – when we start to make progress we can learn to be just like him.

We were created to have fire in our lives. A fire that drives us. If we choose not to strive for the Holy Spirits fire we will be forced to find fire in something that will hurt us.

When drugs/drinking drive us, we think we want it. Then we crash. When the Holy Spirit is allowed to drive, you may not be sure you want what He wants, but He knows better than you what you really want. When He drives we find joy, purpose and we flourish.

www.wikihow.com had a Christian expert write the following regarding being fill with the Spirit

“Desire to be fully controlled by the Holy Spirit, which may also be called being under the full influence of the Spirit or to be constantly led by God. Seek this control in prayer.

Read examples of people being filled with the Holy Spirit. Such as Acts2:4, Acts10:44-46 and Acts19:1-6″

Why is being filled with the Holy Spirit a priority? It is because we were created to be filled with something. We all marvel at how hooked people become with gambling or sex. They are filled with those spirits. I have noticed Spirits working in people stuggling with drugs or alcohol. Those of you with a light addiction may fight this notion. But anyone who is really hooked knows it is true. This is why being filled with the Holy Spirit is great for users. Once you become really filled, drugs/drinking starts to fade because it has been replaced by something better.

To be filled with the Holy Spirit, get all sin out of your life. Keep it out. God has a mighty plan for you. He is waiting for you to be ready to fulfill your destiny.

 

Read 1st Corinthians 11, Matthew 11 and Proverbs 4

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Index

Day one: How to overcome cravings

Day two: Would believing in a higher power be good for you?

Day three: Quitting addiction exercises

Day four: Does God answer pray?

Day five: Starting to understand that we can’t increase our pleasure for the whole month by going back to our addiction

Day six: Planning our day to keep addiction temptation to a minimum

Day seven: We find liberty (or start to find liberty) from addiction when we find Jesus

Day eight: First fruit of the Spirit

Day nine: Benefits of worshipping God

Day ten: Getting rid of negative emotions and overcoming cravings

Day 11: How to be blessed by God and self control

Day 12: Have a list of coping statements

Day 13: How to have living water so that you will never thirst again. How to become a christian.

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This article is a reprint of an earlier article. Please note that you should always research the dangers of quitting your drink of choice. Quitting drinking on your own may be dangerous. Consult a doctor before starting.

 

Quitting drinking

 

I have a 40 day program called Drugs and Drinking no more (which you can access on the left). With that program I give you a few things to work on each day. Quite frankly I put in way more idea’s in this article than I should have put in for a single read. So you can choose to read this or start with day one of my 40 day program (which you can access on the left).

I usually start these articles by talking about the massive amounts of destruction the addiction will do to you. In this case I am not going to do that because many people know all about the destruction but they still can’t stop. But I will give you the short version. Quitting drinking  #1: drinking will ruin you, destroy your health and sometimes harm others. But instead of dwelling on that I am going to talk a little bit about why many people smoke.

Addictions are popular when people have something missing in their lives or when they need to bury some pain or hurt. But when drinking becomes an addiction it quickly becomes a dark hole where relationships, ethics and morals become a much lower priority than they should have.

Quitting drinking  #2: For some people one of the main reasons you indulge is because that is one of the few things that you feel like you have control over. It is your choice, it is your thing – it is who you are. But this is a cruel lie. A drinking addiction is a force and it is a driving force. Quitting drinking  #3: There are some addictions that we think we are controlling but those addictions are actually controlling us. Over time drinking cause a loss of control of everything.

So why do people keep indulging after they have decided to quit? In most people there is a dueling of personalities. Your mind tells you that you have to stop drinking but your pleasure seeking flesh tells you that it will feel good.

Key Point #1 As long as you are ruled by the pleasure principle you will always struggle with addiction. The pleasure seeker may become selfish, immature, demanding and short sited. Quitting drinking  #4: In the long run, pleasure which is from an addiction always has a price to pay which is much higher than what you want to pay.

Quitting drinking  tip #5: Instead of being ruled by the pleasure principle strive to be ruled by the moral principle. The moral principle is wise and rational and it leads to real long term joy instead of fake short term pleasure which leads to destruction. This principle believes that rules like that of your country or laws from the Bible are there to make your life better. When you follow this principle you willingly give up your solution of choice (drinking) in exchange for another activity. Quitting drinking  tip #6: The reason you make this choice is because you now believe that choosing an alternative activity will give you the best life over the next 7 days and longer. So if you stay clean today and develop new activities you may have a hard day today but your week and your future will be better.

Quitting drinking  tip #7: Always choose the Wisdom of staying clean today so that you can have a good life all week, and all year instead of giving in to the short term pleasure and destruction of drinking for one day. Over time staying clean is a lifestyle which is always better.

 

Drinking is an escape for many people. One can escape from tension, anger, lack of success, pain and many other things. Quitting drinking  tip #8: We need to get rid of the escapist mindset because our one day of escape always ruins more than one day and it often ruins a whole week or longer. Along the same lines many have the philosophy that if it feels good do it. The problem is, that the feeling good of a few hours usually causes the feeling bad of a few days. Instead of having this damaging mindset, embrace finding your purpose, and living the right way which will lead to happiness over time.

 

Quitting drinking  tip #9: Develop the habit of thinking about other things all of the time instead of thinking about drinking.

Quitting drinking  tip #10: We can see that being overly sensitive to emotional pain or failure is often a trigger to addiction. So first of all we need to be determined to be tougher and more emotionally ready for life’s constant problems. 2nd, negative emotions can lead us into addiction.

Quitting drinking  tip #11: we need to always work on getting rid of anger and other negative emotions which are often hidden triggers. Lastly we need to avoid circumstances which lead to negative emotions (if possible). Good planning and flexible planning can help you avoid circumstances which will trigger you.

Quitting drinking  tip #12: John Howard Prin also wrote “In time I learned that if my external motivation was strong enough, then my internal impulses could be curbed.”

For some people a great enough amount of pain or a change of thinking will cause them to change their behavior.

Quitting drinking  tip #13: If what you think about has changed, then your internal impulses can be controlled.

This is key point #2. You need to think about the benefits of quitting more often than you think about the experience of drinking. Quitting drinking  tip #14:  Make a note to remind yourself to do this untill it becomes a daily habit.

Quitting drinking  tip #15: You need to think more about the destruction drinking causes you than you think about the pleasure/pain relief it gives.

But we have to be brutally honest: we are as sick as our addictions are. If your addictions are causing harm to others you need to immediately get outside help.

 

Quitting drinking  tip #16: Addiction tells us that something we can do (indulging in drinking) can compensate for what is missing inside of us. It is a lie. Religion will tell you to quit drinking. To control the fire that burns inside of you. But I will tell you that you need to increase the passion in your life. Your life needs to surge with more passion for something then it ever has before. You were created to have a dramatic impact on this world. Most of you have never experienced the rush of knowing what God wants you to do.

 

 

Quitting drinking  tip #17: “Solutions” Try Christianity. Study the Bible and learn how to get prayer answered (you will learn how in my 40 day program. Pray about negative emotions that may be a trigger for you. Learn to understand that the commands in the Bible are there so that you can avoid destruction and find real joy. Learn to understand the destruction of sin. Pray always about finding your purpose and learn about living in the glory of Jesus Christ. He will fill what is missing in your life but you have to figure out what He wants you to do. God wants you to find your purpose and He might someday want you to spread the Gospel. When you learn how to do what God wants you to do, you will start to have more passion and joy than you ever had.

 

Quitting drinking

 

I have a 40 day program called Drugs and Drinking no more (which you can access on the left). With that program I give you a few things to work on each day. Quite frankly I put in way more idea’s in this article than I should have put in for a single read. So you can choose to read this or start with day one of my 40 day program (which you can access on the left).

I usually start these articles by talking about the massive amounts of destruction the addiction will do to you. In this case I am not going to do that because many people know all about the destruction but they still can’t stop. But I will give you the short version. Quitting drinking  #1: drinking will ruin you, destroy your health and sometimes harm others. But instead of dwelling on that I am going to talk a little bit about why many people smoke.

Addictions are popular when people have something missing in their lives or when they need to bury some pain or hurt. But when drinking becomes an addiction it quickly becomes a dark hole where relationships, ethics and morals become a much lower priority than they should have.

Quitting drinking  #2: For some people one of the main reasons you indulge is because that is one of the few things that you feel like you have control over. It is your choice, it is your thing – it is who you are. But this is a cruel lie. A drinking addiction is a force and it is a driving force. Quitting drinking  #3: There are some addictions that we think we are controlling but those addictions are actually controlling us. Over time drinking cause a loss of control of everything.

So why do people keep indulging after they have decided to quit? In most people there is a dueling of personalities. Your mind tells you that you have to stop drinking but your pleasure seeking flesh tells you that it will feel good.

Key Point #1 As long as you are ruled by the pleasure principle you will always struggle with addiction. The pleasure seeker may become selfish, immature, demanding and short sited. Quitting drinking  #4: In the long run, pleasure which is from an addiction always has a price to pay which is much higher than what you want to pay.

Quitting drinking  tip #5: Instead of being ruled by the pleasure principle strive to be ruled by the moral principle. The moral principle is wise and rational and it leads to real long term joy instead of fake short term pleasure which leads to destruction. This principle believes that rules like that of your country or laws from the Bible are there to make your life better. When you follow this principle you willingly give up your solution of choice (drinking) in exchange for another activity. Quitting drinking  tip #6: The reason you make this choice is because you now believe that choosing an alternative activity will give you the best life over the next 7 days and longer. So if you stay clean today and develop new activities you may have a hard day today but your week and your future will be better.

Quitting drinking  tip #7: Always choose the Wisdom of staying clean today so that you can have a good life all week, and all year instead of giving in to the short term pleasure and destruction of drinking for one day. Over time staying clean is a lifestyle which is always better.

 

Drinking is an escape for many people. One can escape from tension, anger, lack of success, pain and many other things. Quitting drinking  tip #8: We need to get rid of the escapist mindset because our one day of escape always ruins more than one day and it often ruins a whole week or longer. Along the same lines many have the philosophy that if it feels good do it. The problem is, that the feeling good of a few hours usually causes the feeling bad of a few days. Instead of having this damaging mindset, embrace finding your purpose, and living the right way which will lead to happiness over time.

 

Quitting drinking  tip #9: Develop the habit of thinking about other things all of the time instead of thinking about drinking.

Quitting drinking  tip #10: We can see that being overly sensitive to emotional pain or failure is often a trigger to addiction. So first of all we need to be determined to be tougher and more emotionally ready for life’s constant problems. 2nd, negative emotions can lead us into addiction.

Quitting drinking  tip #11: we need to always work on getting rid of anger and other negative emotions which are often hidden triggers. Lastly we need to avoid circumstances which lead to negative emotions (if possible). Good planning and flexible planning can help you avoid circumstances which will trigger you.

Quitting drinking  tip #12: John Howard Prin also wrote “In time I learned that if my external motivation was strong enough, then my internal impulses could be curbed.”

For some people a great enough amount of pain or a change of thinking will cause them to change their behavior.

Quitting drinking  tip #13: If what you think about has changed, then your internal impulses can be controlled.

This is key point #2. You need to think about the benefits of quitting more often than you think about the experience of drinking. Quitting drinking  tip #14:  Make a note to remind yourself to do this untill it becomes a daily habit.

Quitting drinking  tip #15: You need to think more about the destruction drinking causes you than you think about the pleasure/pain relief it gives.

But we have to be brutally honest: we are as sick as our addictions are. If your addictions are causing harm to others you need to immediately get outside help.

 

Quitting drinking  tip #16: Addiction tells us that something we can do (indulging in drinking) can compensate for what is missing inside of us. It is a lie. Religion will tell you to quit drinking. To control the fire that burns inside of you. But I will tell you that you need to increase the passion in your life. Your life needs to surge with more passion for something then it ever has before. You were created to have a dramatic impact on this world. Most of you have never experienced the rush of knowing what God wants you to do.

 

Quitting drinking  tip #17: “Solutions” Try Christianity. Study the Bible and learn how to get prayer answered (you will learn how in my 40 day program. Pray about negative emotions that may be a trigger for you. Learn to understand that the commands in the Bible are there so that you can avoid destruction and find real joy. Learn to understand the destruction of sin. Pray always about finding your purpose and learn about living in the glory of Jesus Christ. He will fill what is missing in your life but you have to figure out what He wants you to do. God wants you to find your purpose and He might someday want you to spread the Gospel. When you learn how to do what God wants you to do, you will start to have more passion and joy than you ever had.
This article is a reprint of an earlier article. Please note that you should always research the dangers of quitting your drink of choice. Quitting drinking on your own may be dangerous. Consult a doctor before starting.

 

Quitting drinking

 

I have a 40 day program called Drugs and Drinking no more (which you can access on the left). With that program I give you a few things to work on each day. Quite frankly I put in way more idea’s in this article than I should have put in for a single read. So you can choose to read this or start with day one of my 40 day program (which you can access on the left).

I usually start these articles by talking about the massive amounts of destruction the addiction will do to you. In this case I am not going to do that because many people know all about the destruction but they still can’t stop. But I will give you the short version. Quitting drinking  #1: drinking will ruin you, destroy your health and sometimes harm others. But instead of dwelling on that I am going to talk a little bit about why many people smoke.

Addictions are popular when people have something missing in their lives or when they need to bury some pain or hurt. But when drinking becomes an addiction it quickly becomes a dark hole where relationships, ethics and morals become a much lower priority than they should have.

Quitting drinking  #2: For some people one of the main reasons you indulge is because that is one of the few things that you feel like you have control over. It is your choice, it is your thing – it is who you are. But this is a cruel lie. A drinking addiction is a force and it is a driving force. Quitting drinking  #3: There are some addictions that we think we are controlling but those addictions are actually controlling us. Over time drinking cause a loss of control of everything.

So why do people keep indulging after they have decided to quit? In most people there is a dueling of personalities. Your mind tells you that you have to stop drinking but your pleasure seeking flesh tells you that it will feel good.

Key Point #1 As long as you are ruled by the pleasure principle you will always struggle with addiction. The pleasure seeker may become selfish, immature, demanding and short sited. Quitting drinking  #4: In the long run, pleasure which is from an addiction always has a price to pay which is much higher than what you want to pay.

Quitting drinking  tip #5: Instead of being ruled by the pleasure principle strive to be ruled by the moral principle. The moral principle is wise and rational and it leads to real long term joy instead of fake short term pleasure which leads to destruction. This principle believes that rules like that of your country or laws from the Bible are there to make your life better. When you follow this principle you willingly give up your solution of choice (drinking) in exchange for another activity. Quitting drinking  tip #6: The reason you make this choice is because you now believe that choosing an alternative activity will give you the best life over the next 7 days and longer. So if you stay clean today and develop new activities you may have a hard day today but your week and your future will be better.

Quitting drinking  tip #7: Always choose the Wisdom of staying clean today so that you can have a good life all week, and all year instead of giving in to the short term pleasure and destruction of drinking for one day. Over time staying clean is a lifestyle which is always better.

 

Drinking is an escape for many people. One can escape from tension, anger, lack of success, pain and many other things. Quitting drinking  tip #8: We need to get rid of the escapist mindset because our one day of escape always ruins more than one day and it often ruins a whole week or longer. Along the same lines many have the philosophy that if it feels good do it. The problem is, that the feeling good of a few hours usually causes the feeling bad of a few days. Instead of having this damaging mindset, embrace finding your purpose, and living the right way which will lead to happiness over time.

 

Quitting drinking  tip #9: Develop the habit of thinking about other things all of the time instead of thinking about drinking.

Quitting drinking  tip #10: We can see that being overly sensitive to emotional pain or failure is often a trigger to addiction. So first of all we need to be determined to be tougher and more emotionally ready for life’s constant problems. 2nd, negative emotions can lead us into addiction.

Quitting drinking  tip #11: we need to always work on getting rid of anger and other negative emotions which are often hidden triggers. Lastly we need to avoid circumstances which lead to negative emotions (if possible). Good planning and flexible planning can help you avoid circumstances which will trigger you.

Quitting drinking  tip #12: John Howard Prin also wrote “In time I learned that if my external motivation was strong enough, then my internal impulses could be curbed.”

For some people a great enough amount of pain or a change of thinking will cause them to change their behavior.

Quitting drinking  tip #13: If what you think about has changed, then your internal impulses can be controlled.

This is key point #2. You need to think about the benefits of quitting more often than you think about the experience of drinking. Quitting drinking  tip #14:  Make a note to remind yourself to do this untill it becomes a daily habit.

Quitting drinking  tip #15: You need to think more about the destruction drinking causes you than you think about the pleasure/pain relief it gives.

But we have to be brutally honest: we are as sick as our addictions are. If your addictions are causing harm to others you need to immediately get outside help.

 

Quitting drinking  tip #16: Addiction tells us that something we can do (indulging in drinking) can compensate for what is missing inside of us. It is a lie. Religion will tell you to quit drinking. To control the fire that burns inside of you. But I will tell you that you need to increase the passion in your life. Your life needs to surge with more passion for something then it ever has before. You were created to have a dramatic impact on this world. Most of you have never experienced the rush of knowing what God wants you to do.

 

 

Quitting drinking  tip #17: “Solutions” Try Christianity. Study the Bible and learn how to get prayer answered (you will learn how in my 40 day program. Pray about negative emotions that may be a trigger for you. Learn to understand that the commands in the Bible are there so that you can avoid destruction and find real joy. Learn to understand the destruction of sin. Pray always about finding your purpose and learn about living in the glory of Jesus Christ. He will fill what is missing in your life but you have to figure out what He wants you to do. God wants you to find your purpose and He might someday want you to spread the Gospel. When you learn how to do what God wants you to do, you will start to have more passion and joy than you ever had.